This seems to be brought up enough, about which bachelors lives & dreams are you “ruining” by marrying them.
Dreams are allowed to change. So I’m choosing to believe that I am not holding my spouse hostage against their will and they actually chose to be with me as well.
boilyourdentist on
i dont think shes mad here. but also in marriage Sebastian says “The older I get, the less I’m drawn to the city. It had a certain mystique to it, once. But it turns out that was just a romantic fantasy. The city is so busy and full of people… I don’t belong there. I’m a loner.” so I don’t think you’re putting a stop to his dreams, he just realizes thats not what he really wanted
strrawberrymilk on
To be fair he does not move to the city regardless of whether you marry him or not 😔
SatisfactionActive86 on
1. she’s bitter it wasn’t her
2. she should mind her own fucking business
Fluffy_Woodpecker733 on
Goth girl is jealous. Sorry babe, seb is now a mindless drone in my farmhouse for the sole reason of that sweet sweet stardrop
Honorsheets on
Seb didn’t chase the city because it was his dream, he just didn’t like his life there. What he wanted was happiness, which he found in you (and himself, and his sweet bike).
SharpEdgeSoda on
I don’t want more marriage candidates. I want everyone else in town to settle down if the Farmer doesn’t grab em.
Make it a cutscene where they ask the Farmer’s advice if they should ask someone out. That way the player can determine if they marry or stay single.
Fit-Carpet9599 on
i felt the same with my first romance choice, alex. he always talked about going pro and now he’s stuck playing catch with himself in the back…
clairejv on
This is a huge part of why I like marrying Leah and Elliott. They chose to come to Pelican Town and want to stay. And they need a sugar mama to support their art.
Odasto_ on
Alternate take: Sebastian never had any tangible dreams that involved moving to the city. That was just his symbol of wanting to get away from the village.
He was under no obligation to accept your bouquet and, ultimately, your mermaid pendant. Those were his choices. Because you gave him a reason to want to stay.
It’s not so dissimilar from Haley talking about being anywhere else (the mall, the beach) and ultimately realizing “hey! Farming life suits me!”
Cheap-Disk-6505 on
Sebastian wants to move to the city because he doesn’t feel like he belongs in the valley. Falling in love with the farmer and moving to the farm gives him a place where he feels at home; thus, he no longer wants/ needs to move to the city.
Sensitive_Ad2681 on
Abigail is just salty lol. He didn’t lose his dream, he found a new one.
TadaSuko on
I’m more concerned about the fact that you seem to be dating Abigail and you married her boyfriend.
quartzquandary on
You get a dialogue with Sebastian where he talks about his “dream” of moving to the city wasn’t what he really, truly wanted. What he wanted was to be able to get away from his family situation. He tells you how happy he is on the farm all the time.
Mindless_Soil_2935 on
Just like in real life! ❤️
Nor_Ah_C on
Why can’t dreams change? He wanted to leave because he felt alone. Now he doesn’t.
AndrastesDimples on
This is always an odd take for me. I’m in my 40s. Dreams aren’t static and as we brush up against other people or experience new things, dreams shift. A dying dream is only tragic if nothing takes its place.
mildlysadcat_ on
Does it not occur to others that people can change dreams within the course of life?
wedge_47 on
Fun fact… Sebastian never moves to the city, even if you don’t marry him.
ghostsintheteagarden on
At high hearts, pre-bouquet, he tells you how he’s been reading a book about a farmer, and after marriage he basically tells you he’d been romanticising moving to the city just to get away from the basement where no one took him or his job seriously. His marriage dialogue says how grateful he is to feel appreciated and that he’s able to work on developing video games like he wanted to. He’s a much happier little introvert raising frogs in the farmhouse
Redplushie on
He wanted to run away to the city because there was nothing anchoring him down in the Valley…until you came around 🥹💓
OutlandishnessHour19 on
My strong dislike of Abigail is based solely upon her egg hunting prowess.
AnythingAdorable7627 on
A farm is a perfect place to recluse yourself.
Isiotic_Mind on
I always feel like that’s the case for any of them except for maybe Penny.
grimdivinations on
As someone who grew up in a tiny rural town who finally made it to a large city 7 years ago, I’ve spent the entire 7 years wishing I had never left
umgif on
sebastian is a grown man, he can choose what he wants to do and having new dreams, like living with his love in a pretty farm.
calciumff on
I love the mod where seb gets more backstory and talks about his dad and how he dreamed about the city because his dad left to live there. I feel like it made the whole thing better. (also there’s a lot of character development in the mod and improvements to his relationship with family)
No_Penalty_8920 on
I remember when I was a young, single person growing up in rural towns that I just wanted to move to the big city. Now that I’m older, I just want a farm. I like to think Seb feels the same way.
Also, even if you don’t marry him, he never moves away. So he may as well move out of the basement
Odd-Preparation-472 on
If it makes you feel better, if you marry someone else he still never leaves 😂
rmatevia on
I’m glad a lot of the comments here echo my feelings whenever this topic is brought up.
I get why people have this take, but as others have pointed out, when you marry Sebastian, he, himself, tells you how he thought he always dreamed of leaving the city, but the older he got, the less he realized he wanted it. I feel like people that say marrying Sebastian “ruins” or “kills” his dream neglect the fact that *most* people don’t have stagnant, unchanging dreams. Time and experience results in *most* people having a shift in perspective or desires. Like, I’m willing to be many people here “dreamed” of being something like a famous athlete, performer, artist, etc. but as you got older and gained perspective and had impactful experiences, that changed. Sebastian is no different. He *thought* he wanted to live in the city, when he felt like there wasn’t anything *for* him in the valley and that he didn’t belong. Then he meets you, and as he gets to know you, he not only gains a new appreciation for the valley, but he also realizes that he doesn’t feel like he’d even *belong* in a big city.
At no point does Sebastian *not* have complete and total autonomy in every choice he makes. He *chooses* to accept your bouquet and he *chooses* to accept your mermaid pendant. Like, at no point did *anyone* make any attempt to prevent him from leaving. He *chose* that for himself
Due-Maintenance53822 on
omfg
Cresting_Wave788 on
I think
1.) Sebastian just wanted to be somewhere he was loved and respected. It’s a common trope to have an outsider crave a new environment because their current one doesn’t have what they need, only for that to change once they find the right place/job/person/thing that makes them feel settled. (And if you’re a country kid you might’ve even witnessed this irl- I have with people I grew up with.)
2.) Doesn’t Abigail disregard his job, wanting to come over even when he was working? I wouldn’t say she has a point given she was likely one of the reasons he felt like he had to go to the city. One of his best friends and treated his job like a joke.
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This seems to be brought up enough, about which bachelors lives & dreams are you “ruining” by marrying them.
Dreams are allowed to change. So I’m choosing to believe that I am not holding my spouse hostage against their will and they actually chose to be with me as well.
i dont think shes mad here. but also in marriage Sebastian says “The older I get, the less I’m drawn to the city. It had a certain mystique to it, once. But it turns out that was just a romantic fantasy. The city is so busy and full of people… I don’t belong there. I’m a loner.” so I don’t think you’re putting a stop to his dreams, he just realizes thats not what he really wanted
To be fair he does not move to the city regardless of whether you marry him or not 😔
1. she’s bitter it wasn’t her
2. she should mind her own fucking business
Goth girl is jealous. Sorry babe, seb is now a mindless drone in my farmhouse for the sole reason of that sweet sweet stardrop
Seb didn’t chase the city because it was his dream, he just didn’t like his life there. What he wanted was happiness, which he found in you (and himself, and his sweet bike).
I don’t want more marriage candidates. I want everyone else in town to settle down if the Farmer doesn’t grab em.
Make it a cutscene where they ask the Farmer’s advice if they should ask someone out. That way the player can determine if they marry or stay single.
i felt the same with my first romance choice, alex. he always talked about going pro and now he’s stuck playing catch with himself in the back…
This is a huge part of why I like marrying Leah and Elliott. They chose to come to Pelican Town and want to stay. And they need a sugar mama to support their art.
Alternate take: Sebastian never had any tangible dreams that involved moving to the city. That was just his symbol of wanting to get away from the village.
He was under no obligation to accept your bouquet and, ultimately, your mermaid pendant. Those were his choices. Because you gave him a reason to want to stay.
It’s not so dissimilar from Haley talking about being anywhere else (the mall, the beach) and ultimately realizing “hey! Farming life suits me!”
Sebastian wants to move to the city because he doesn’t feel like he belongs in the valley. Falling in love with the farmer and moving to the farm gives him a place where he feels at home; thus, he no longer wants/ needs to move to the city.
Abigail is just salty lol. He didn’t lose his dream, he found a new one.
I’m more concerned about the fact that you seem to be dating Abigail and you married her boyfriend.
You get a dialogue with Sebastian where he talks about his “dream” of moving to the city wasn’t what he really, truly wanted. What he wanted was to be able to get away from his family situation. He tells you how happy he is on the farm all the time.
Just like in real life! ❤️
Why can’t dreams change? He wanted to leave because he felt alone. Now he doesn’t.
This is always an odd take for me. I’m in my 40s. Dreams aren’t static and as we brush up against other people or experience new things, dreams shift. A dying dream is only tragic if nothing takes its place.
Does it not occur to others that people can change dreams within the course of life?
Fun fact… Sebastian never moves to the city, even if you don’t marry him.
At high hearts, pre-bouquet, he tells you how he’s been reading a book about a farmer, and after marriage he basically tells you he’d been romanticising moving to the city just to get away from the basement where no one took him or his job seriously. His marriage dialogue says how grateful he is to feel appreciated and that he’s able to work on developing video games like he wanted to. He’s a much happier little introvert raising frogs in the farmhouse
He wanted to run away to the city because there was nothing anchoring him down in the Valley…until you came around 🥹💓
My strong dislike of Abigail is based solely upon her egg hunting prowess.
A farm is a perfect place to recluse yourself.
I always feel like that’s the case for any of them except for maybe Penny.
As someone who grew up in a tiny rural town who finally made it to a large city 7 years ago, I’ve spent the entire 7 years wishing I had never left
sebastian is a grown man, he can choose what he wants to do and having new dreams, like living with his love in a pretty farm.
I love the mod where seb gets more backstory and talks about his dad and how he dreamed about the city because his dad left to live there. I feel like it made the whole thing better. (also there’s a lot of character development in the mod and improvements to his relationship with family)
I remember when I was a young, single person growing up in rural towns that I just wanted to move to the big city. Now that I’m older, I just want a farm. I like to think Seb feels the same way.
Also, even if you don’t marry him, he never moves away. So he may as well move out of the basement
If it makes you feel better, if you marry someone else he still never leaves 😂
I’m glad a lot of the comments here echo my feelings whenever this topic is brought up.
I get why people have this take, but as others have pointed out, when you marry Sebastian, he, himself, tells you how he thought he always dreamed of leaving the city, but the older he got, the less he realized he wanted it. I feel like people that say marrying Sebastian “ruins” or “kills” his dream neglect the fact that *most* people don’t have stagnant, unchanging dreams. Time and experience results in *most* people having a shift in perspective or desires. Like, I’m willing to be many people here “dreamed” of being something like a famous athlete, performer, artist, etc. but as you got older and gained perspective and had impactful experiences, that changed. Sebastian is no different. He *thought* he wanted to live in the city, when he felt like there wasn’t anything *for* him in the valley and that he didn’t belong. Then he meets you, and as he gets to know you, he not only gains a new appreciation for the valley, but he also realizes that he doesn’t feel like he’d even *belong* in a big city.
At no point does Sebastian *not* have complete and total autonomy in every choice he makes. He *chooses* to accept your bouquet and he *chooses* to accept your mermaid pendant. Like, at no point did *anyone* make any attempt to prevent him from leaving. He *chose* that for himself
omfg
I think
1.) Sebastian just wanted to be somewhere he was loved and respected. It’s a common trope to have an outsider crave a new environment because their current one doesn’t have what they need, only for that to change once they find the right place/job/person/thing that makes them feel settled. (And if you’re a country kid you might’ve even witnessed this irl- I have with people I grew up with.)
2.) Doesn’t Abigail disregard his job, wanting to come over even when he was working? I wouldn’t say she has a point given she was likely one of the reasons he felt like he had to go to the city. One of his best friends and treated his job like a joke.